Hi and wow! it’s been a few days and I really could say so much more, and intend to. A recent comment warns us about, “but I think there is a blatant disregard for the possibility of serious mental anguish,” and its really true. There is great potential for some serious harm as anonymity breeds more predators. A lot of people on the wrong side of my favorite profile to quote from, “If you think SL is just a game, then you have already lost.”
Bleah! Mean people suck, the really do!
It’s a fair warning and so be warned. Take care of you first and don’t risk so much so fast. Always have your guard up but don’t be so obvious about it. I personally draw the line at any personally identifiable or more intimate than me and my real life husband are comfortable with. That includes the part of Boise we live in, our phone number, images, video or voice.
I am 46, have danced in real life, was a fun and flirty kind of girl of my life. I can be sassy and sarcastic and somewhat playfully feline. I get moody and try hard to not be bitchy, I really don’t like rude and pushy people much and I can go 5 days at last count without having sex.
I like conversation about most anything and have an opinion that about all things that is hard to change, but not impossible. So now you know me a little more?
Here is the thing about relationships and Second Life, only risk what you can afford to lose. Really, be careful till your sure and still be careful. It can be really obvious when people are casual about relationships and it can be kind of OK to be that and have fun with those. There are people who just are friendly, they go to events, socialize, talk about their home life and culture, very fun and nothing wrong with that. There are people who really get involved in serious relationships really kind of like soul and mind stuff.
Here is the problem, there are predators and also people who aren’t so healthy. A friend of mind told me a story about some guy that came into a club run by this other really cool guy. Well the New Guy was really charming, fun and liked by women and men alike but in a heterosexual kind of way. He forged various relationships, bonded with a group of happy people and after a couple of months he introduced his brother (hindsight reveals brother is played by new guy). A couple of weeks go by and the brother announces that new guy had died that morning.
God that would of sucked huh!!!
So there you have it, be warned. Don’t be a fool and let yourself be damaged more than you can take and still recover. Be obvious if you are casual, serious or whatever. If you just are kinky and rather not share the time of day after you do you thing, have a ton of fun with it! I do.
Remember also that if you want meaningful relationships there are risk. There are really cool people that will meld with you in games like Second Life. Really cool, really fun really real. Unhealthy people suck as much as mean people do, well some of them do. If you don’t have a good sense of self-worth then maybe a hack and slash game might be better fun or at least be obvious so you don’t hurt people.
