Sage Sideshow’s Weblog

Hi again,

In part one of this series I promised to talk about a few things and I am torn as which to cover in this post. We all want good sex and defining what that is for many of us is important, we all want sex and how to find it is also important. So lets just get on with how to find it so we all can get a little practice, then talking about good sex and bad sex will have more meaning.

If you are a woman, or at least playing a female avatar then finding sex wont be that difficult. Men, women, transexuals, animals and all manner of mythological creatures are likely to hit on you. Men have a much harder time finding sex in Second Life and much of this blog post is addressed to males but should apply much the same to all species/genders.

To find sex, simply search using the Second Life search tool and visit places. God if it were that easy, we would have no time to read blogs. Just visiting a location like Bob’s Free Noob Sex Joint is not going to get you laid, most of the time. There are things that you need to consider and do in order to be able to scratch that itch.

One of the first things to think on is your appearance. Sure some people get off on sex with ugly, gross, disgusting people. Most of us prefer to be intimate with some one attractive, or at least someone that cares enough to try and be attractive. Men, women, others, listen up here. You should come up with a look that is beyond that of your default avatar (avatar you appear as the first time you log in).

There are 3 major areas that affect how you look. Your shape defines physical proportions, this is something you can change yourself. Be fat, thin, tall, short or whatever but try to be the you that you want to be. Your skin is something worn over the shape and greatly affects how you look, there are free skins as well as skins you can purchase. Hair, far to many bald men in Second Life for bald to be an attractive look. Men, get some hair on your heads please, if you are bald it should be the personality you want to portray and not just that you are too lazy to find hair or just don’t care. Once these are taken care of, get an AO, a device that affects how you stand and walk, so you can look good and also look cool *winks*.

Now that you know we rather not have sex with complete newbie avatars, you should consider personality and approach. When I started Second Life nearly 3 years ago I had no idea, I was a woman in SL without a single friend and I wondered about all the sex I heard about. I went to a few places and guys quickly IMed me and said “you are cute, wanna make sex with me?” and I was shocked. Most of these guys were unappealing and after the first one I just avoided sex for a while.

I explored different locations and found out there was a better way than pestering people for a good fuck, or even just a fuck. I started to have conversations with people, we would talk about anything of interest and often we found common ground and had sex with some of these people. Just like in the real world, if you only focus is the sex then you get less of it. How you look for sex will make a big difference.

Location, location location. If you are looking for sex then look for it in an appropriate area. I really hate getting hit on while shopping, if I go to a club I kind of expect it. Location means also, looking for a specific type of sex in a place that caters to it. For instance, why would you look for straight sex at a gay club?

Ok this post is very non-specific, very general and some would think obvious. Try shopping for a cute outfit and then wonder why its less than obvious to so many. Remember also, we are all looking for sex all of the time. Some of us want love, friendship or just to have fun. The next post in this series will focus on good sex and what it is. Other post will delve deeper into specific topics.

Now go get laid, will you?